Oh for the elixir of "fessing up", "coming clean" "showing your hand"… This practice/trait doesn't come overnite, and takes a lot of crow and humble pie dieting, but in the end its a game changer! Yes, its usually a little of some of what he/she/ they did as well, but sure as shootin, I legitimately made a pretty big part of the mess. But, as a clever satirist stated, "I'm not OK, you're not OK, but its OK!" In other words, there's a great process to help clean up the mess and a lot of it deals with "owning your side of the street." So go down to the Juice Shop and order a super-size cup of "fess up!" It's free!